i don't post a lot about my personal life here anymore but i have a situation that i'd like some feedback on.. i have been dating a for about 5 months.
she is a university professor, originally from madrid spain, speaks 3 languages, quite an interesting and intelligent lady.
however, i have also come to find that she is very insecure and somewhat childish emotionally.. she has brought up marriage several times, and i have tried to keep her at bay on this subject, as i just don't know if the relationship has that kind of feeling or not.. the problem is, i don't know what that feeling is supposed to be.
Dan,
I was pretty much inept when it came to meeting women and dating after I quit being a witless. I found an advice site on the web that I think is pretty good. Here it is:
http://askmen.com/dating/doclove/index.html
Read some of the articles. I found a lot of the advice very helpful.
there is apparently no chance at all of her ever recovering from her present state, but do you think she should live or die?
for myself, i think she's better off dead than living---no, existing---in her present state.
i for one, have instructed my family to let me die if something like this ever happened to me.
My brother was kept alive with a feeding tube for years after he suffered a brain injury. He could not walk, talk, or hear. His short term memory was shot. He could read though and communicate somewhat by pointing at a letter board. One day he just died suddenly. I was deeply saddened that he died but was also relieved that he had finally passed. It was an up and down emotional experience. While I have told many, many people that I would prefer to die if in a similar state, I realized that without a formal, written and legal document expressing my preference to die, the verbal expression was worthless. Bottom line, in my opinion, unless the husband can produce a document proving that Terri wanted to die he has no right to force the issue. Also keep in mind that Terri is now going to die of dehydration. Death by dehydration is a horrible way to go and she will suffer. Again in my opinion, I think that her husband, the judge who ordered the removal of the tube, and anyone else who supports her death sentence should also be denied food and water while waiting for her heart to stop beating so they understand what it is like to die that way. It wouldn't take long before they would be begging for mercy.
has anyone tried dating web sites?
i am a member of a famous one, but i am finding it takes so long to get to know someone and the person you finally meet can turn out nothing like you expected.
currently i've been chatting to someone for 6 months - "speed dating" in slow motion!
I joined AFF out of curiosity. If you join make sure you use an email address you can throw away as it will become clogged with spam from every porn site you can imagine. I didn't meet anyone on AFF, but it was entertaining for a little while.
I joined eharmony with a coupon for 3 free months. The service made dozens of matches around the world, which was problematic. I did get to the open communication stage with several of the matches but nothing panned out because of the distances involved. I did specify that matches made would have to be within a 100 miles of where I lived, but eharmony kept sending me matches from all over the globe. I do keep in touch with one of the matches though. She let me know up front that she wasn't really looking for a relationship with anybody but was just exploring the online dating world. We exchange email quite often and chat when we catch each other online. She is really a pretty woman and we do have quite a bit in common. Again it is a distance issue given that I live in Minnesota and she lives in Costa Rica. Maybe one day I'll jump a plane and go visit. Always wanted to go there anyway. Off to Expedia.
I have much better success meeting women riding my motorcycle then with any online dating service. The sailboat helps also...and a job, and a house, and an education, and so on. Getting out and about in your home area is the best way to meet anybody. Just my two cents worth.
during class the teacher asks "who all plan to go to college?
" and you shrink down in your seat in an effort to become invisible as everyone in the class raises their hand.
-doodle-v. your turn!
you try to be inconspicuous while you're sitting on the stage holding your violyn in your lap while everyone else in the orchestra plays the patriotic or holiday songs during a performance.
Been there, done that. Only with a sax.
You know you're a JW teenager if...
the phrase "legal minimum age" enters your mind when pondering career paths.
you don't know the difference between a quarterback and a lineman.
you envision your classmates being eaten by birds.
you look forward to magazine articles with "Young People Ask" in the title and you take those articles seriously.
you never talk to your parents about anything really important related to growing up because you just know they will rat you out to the elders.
you pray to Jehovah for forgiveness every time you get a boner.
the voter turnout for the 2004 us presidential election was 60.7% (http://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn/articles/a10492-2005jan14.html).
despite being threatened by terrorists, iraq's voter turnout was much greater than the last us voter turnout!
i'd say it was a far greater success than expected!
During the run up to the election, the leader of the insurgency, Zarqawi, said that "those with purple fingers would be infidels and would be punished." This was a reference to the election practice of dipping voters fingers in ink in order to prevent fraud. While watching the election coverage this morning I was struck at the number of people who walked out of the polls and held up their ink-dipped fingers for everyone to see. What a simple and elegant way for the Iraqi voters to tell Zarqawi to kiss their collective asses. An amazing event to watch today that I hope carries on tomorrow.
but i have no date :/ .
the girl that i met at the beginning of the school year who got me into partying and just having fun isnt with me anymore and ive been upset about that a few months, i was planning on asking her to prom but it was too late.
i see a few girls that i want to ask out, but i dont know if they're single or not or if it would just come off being wierd stalkerish since its the middle of the year and ive never really talked to them much.
When is the prom? Next weekend? In two or three months?
I don't envy you crizlee. I've been out of high school for a couple of decades+ but I do remember the "battle of the sexes" quite vividly. They were brutal with all the hormones flowing and everyone posing. On the other hand, if I knew then what I know now...
Here are some suggestions. When you see a girl you are interested in strike up a converstation. Keep it light and short. You are looking for signals of interest from her or "buy signals." If you make a silly joke about something, she might laugh a little harder or longer than you expected. If you ask her a question, she might give you way more detail than you expected. If she touches you, that is a very strong buy signal. If you think that she is indeed sending you buy signals, you must close the deal. Don't ask her out. Ask her for her phone number, preferably her home phone number. Her personal cell phone number would be the next best thing. If she offers you anything else but that personal number, you have probably misread the buy signals and that is not the end of the world. She might ask for your number instead of giving you hers. If you want to give it to her but don't hang around the phone waiting for a call. Chances are she won't dial you up. Again, this is not the end of the world. If she gives you the number, don't linger around talking. Put the number in your pocket and walk away. Do not call her that night or even the next day. Wait a couple of days and give her a call. A lot of women like gabbing on the phone, but shy away from that trap. Keep the call short and to the point - "do you want to go out with me?" Make sure that you have something specific in mind when you ask the question though. None of this "do you want to go do something with me" stuff. When you go out, keep the date light and fun. Let her do most of the talking. Guys get in trouble when they start running their mouths.
Getting a girl to go out with you is a numbers game. Strike up conversations at every opportunity and always keep an eye out for those buy signals. At school, walking down the street, hanging out at the mall - if sombody strikes your interest make a move to break the ice. Just saying "hi" to someone can lead to bigger and better things. Good luck and have fun, crizlee.
but i have no date :/ .
the girl that i met at the beginning of the school year who got me into partying and just having fun isnt with me anymore and ive been upset about that a few months, i was planning on asking her to prom but it was too late.
i see a few girls that i want to ask out, but i dont know if they're single or not or if it would just come off being wierd stalkerish since its the middle of the year and ive never really talked to them much.
Ask those girls out now. There are plenty of things to do between now and the prom that you could do with a date. Don't worry about hearing them say no thanks. If they don't want to go out with you, it is their loss, not yours. Realizing that the word "no" from a women replying to an offer to go out is not fatal is knowledge that will serve you well later.
having had my 1-2-1 with my boss yesterday on my performance in managing an acute surgical ward, she informs me that she expects me to commence a course in critical care at degree level commencing september.
the reason being our surgical ward is being converted into a high dependancy unit (like an itu) and she wants me to manage it and gain the necessary skills.
i already have a diploma in higher ed.
I started working on my bachelors degree when I was in my 30's. When I walked into my first lecture - it was chemistry with all that stuff about "anes" and "enes" and "ines" or whatever and those models... - I had no idea what the prof was talking about. The lecture hall was huge and packed with teenagers, I felt like barfing. That was the start of a six odd year period of my life that consisted of working full time and going to school 3/4 time. Work, school, study, sleep - that was my life. I would be at home doing school work thinking "I hate this, I hate this" as I watched life passing me by. Then one day, I got a letter from the University saying that I would satisfy the course work for graduation at the end of the semester and the U was wondering what I wanted to buy from them - a tassle, a gown, season tickets for the hockey games - always wanting money. Anyway, on graduation day when I walked across the stage and picked up the fake diploma (the real one was mailed weeks later) my first thought was, "Hell, that wasn't so bad." My second thought was about the lying SOB CO who told me that the "great tribualtion" would occur before I could finish a degree. That converstation had occured over twenty years earlier. What a prick. Anyway, I'm wandering. I guess my point is this. If I, of all people, can go to school and earn a degree, anyone can. It has to do with desire though. If you want it to happen it will. I wish you all the best
on the train yesterday on the way home from work, i saw someone sitting in front of me reading a km.
apparently a sister studying for the service mtng.
the funny thing was that i noticed that she was underlining every word in the article she was studying.
One day while sitting in the waiting room at my doctors office a man, his wife, and two kids around 10 or 12 came in. They sat down and the mom pulled out 4 watchtowers and handed them out and they started to study. The husband and wife looked all serious, but the kids looked rather mortified and annoyed. I felt embarassed for them. My mom and dad would never have pulled a stunt like that. On the other hand, maybe if my mom and dad had done that I would still be in. Thanks mom and dad.
just a couple of days ago, the us supreme court ruled in a case that has demolished the 4th amendment which states:.
amendment iv: the right of the people to be secure in their persons, houses, papers, and effects, against unreasonable searches and seizures, shall not be violated, and no warrants shall issue, but upon probable cause, supported by oath or affirmation, and particularly describing the place to be searched, and the persons or things to be seized.
previously, you were secure in your person, including your cloths, car, house, etc.
I'm subject to random drug testing because I have a commercial drivers license. I can be randomly accused of being a drug addict or drunk and must report to a clinic for a breath test, give a urine sample, or both. The only probable cause is the license. Drug testing is a huge industry now thanks to the law. This is an erosion of my personal liberty. Another erosion of liberty is all of the smoking bans popping up everywhere. A resturant or bar is private property and if the owner wants to let people smoke that should be the owners business. The government can ban smoking on government held property, but on private property? The USA is becoming a nanny state. Our personal liberties will not be wiped out with one fell swoop from an external enemy. Liberty will die from thousands of often small self-inflicted wounds.
